Five ways to enrich your Love-Life by Jessica Louise
1) The ten minute catch up
Take a crack at changing your nightly routine to allow time. For instance, instead of switching on the TV straight after kissing your little cherubs goodnight, spend ten minutes chatting as a couple. Likewise, rather than having dinner on the table at 6pm on the dot, make it ten minutes later and while the kids are doing their homework, or playing, enjoy a glass of wine, or a cold cocktail together before you sit down to eat as a family. Pass up talking about the children during this ‘us’ time if possible.
2) Date night
Once the initial spark of your early relationship fades and kids come into the equation, it’s more crucial than ever to reconnect with your partner and recharge those relationship batteries. Apart from giving you a break from the kids, a regular date night with your partner is a chance for you to be alone with each other and be romantic. From dressing up and spraying on perfume, to good conversation, red wine and sex, dating your partner can spice up your relationship.
Find some funds in the family finances to make date night a priority. If you’re lucky enough to have gratis babysitting on call, book grandparents for a regular date night slot. If money is an problem, propose a babysitting exchange arrangement with your friends who also have children.
Whether your date night is once a week, once a fortnight, or once a month, make a commitment and a promise to your partner that you’ll be there. Put it on the calendar and think of it as an obligation (that you enjoy!) just as important as a doctor’s appointment.
3) Know your needs
Relationships Australia (RA) says one way to enhance a relationship is to have a discussion about each other’s relationship wishes. By doing this you’re not only showing your partner that you value his needs and thoughts, but you are also letting him know what you want from the partnership.
RA recommends that you both write down five qualities, or needs, that are most important to each of you in your relationship. Have a look at each other’s list and see which of your partner’s needs you can do something about, and which you need to negotiate and vice versa.
4) “You’re so talented!”
Research has shown that people often don’t stray outside a marriage for sex, but because someone else has made them feel good about themselves. Compliment, praise and make your partner feel great about themselves, at any time the opportunity arises. Odds are they’ll catch on to your drift and the compliments will come your way too!
5) Make friends with technology
Take advantage of new communication technology to make your partner feel noteworthy when you’re not together. A simple “thinking of u” text before a work meeting he’s nervous about, or a quick “love u” instant message, or email, while you’re with the kids at the park will make you both feel closer when apart.
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Article Source: Just Enjoy Life