Dating Look: Distinct or Disgusting by Addison Kross

One of the best ways to ensure that you don’t get a second date is to overlook some of the most basic methods of hygiene, style and what is considered to be a generally acceptable look in public. While many people enjoy making their mark in the world by expressing a unique hair style or clothing ensemble it is important to remember that there is a difference between unique and just plain lazy.

When you’re making a first impression, an impression where most people are on their best behavior, if you send out the signal that you can’t be bothered with a bit of basic prep you are likely to leave your date in horror considering that if this is your best, how might you appear when relaxed later on in the relationship?

There are those who believe that because they are dating someone they have known for a while, or are dating friends, that need not put much effort. Others meet singles online and feel that because of their shared connection their appearance has little meaning. While it is certainly nice to think that people care more about personality than looks this doesn’t excuse some of the revolting hygiene habits that get overlooked.

It is important that you understand that this type of preparation isn’t about what type of shirt you wear, the label or where you bought it, this is simply about making sure that you don’t have a week old spaghetti stain on it. If someone goes on a first, second or even third date and ends up sitting across the table from a potential romance who can’t be bothered to clean up a bit this sends out a very strong, negative signal. So whether you’re friendship dating or finding online romance, be sure to check this list before heading out to impress:

Look to Location:

Matching your attire to the location where your date will be taking place is important; if you’re under-dressed or over it is likely that you will feel uncomfortable so be sure to check on where you’re going in plenty of time to pick out the right outfit and give it a wash. Anything from the hamper is a no-no, as it is likely to look terrible and perhaps smell even worse.

Hop in the tub:

Unless you absolutely do not have time, always bathe before your date. Human beings take a lot in through their sense of smell and the slightest foul odor can easily ruin your chances for building successful relationships, or even just getting close enough for a hug.

Consider that even if your date does not notice that it is you that doesn’t smell terrific, they may end up having an overall bad impression of the date itself, perhaps even subconsciously, which may cause them to consider you in a negative light and not even be aware of the connection! The simple action of trying to smell nice can eliminate a great many potential pitfalls that no one should have to contend with.

Buzz, clip and trim:

Hair is a very big part of a person’s overall look and should be given some attention however you choose to style. Dirty hair for one is a big turn-off as it tends to give off a bad odor when someone gets close and as any dating advice column will tell you, it almost always just looks bad. Another big problem area that too many singles overlook might be the hair that just shouldn’t be there at all.

Women have the brunt of it with the expectation that they should have nearly every inch trimmed and plucked and this can be quite a trial, but if you’re out on the dating scene it isn’t something you can easily cast aside if you’re hoping to attract someone special. For both genders and any stray nose, ear or eyebrows hairs really should be dealt with as they can be a distraction and for some a real pet peeve.

Hosing the Cologne/Perfume:

Most match dating sites do not have a box to check that includes a fragrance preference, but for how offensive to the nose some of the smells can be they might as well. The ideal date functions in such a way that you will at one point or another be close to your potential partner and if you have drowned yourself in a perfume or cologne it may just the thing to send them packing. Too much of anything is often bad for you, keep this in mind when hitting a bottle of any kind.

Enamel Check:

Before heading out on any date make sure that your teeth and fingernails are clean. Bad breath is a certain way for you to miss out on any potential kisses and dirty or ragged nails can send an equally bad impression, especially if heading out for some food where they are sure to get noticed. Using mouthwash is always a great idea as the effects tend to last a bit longer and it never hurts to carry along some breath freshening mints, wisps or gum for the after meal close-up.

Overdone is just plain burnt:

Many people tend to overdo it on their first date because they hope to make a good impression or are nervous. This can be especially true for those that are meeting the first time and have either never seen one another or have only exchanged profile pictures. Remember not to go too heavy on anything from body spray to hair gel and if necessary, give yourself an excessive amount of time to get ready so that you can take each step at your leisure.

Finding love or someone fun to spend time with is an unnerving process, but don’t allow this to cause you to pile on the makeup either. Many women who are eager to look hot on their date can go overboard with some make-up applications and may even look great on their way out the door only to find themselves having a panic attack in the bathroom mirror two hours later.

Some useful quick tips related to singles hygiene and your date’s perception:

When out on a date is likely that throughout the evening you and your date will both consider the idea of getting physical many, many times. Keeping this in mind, it is even more important that you do not send out the wrong signal about your cleanliness or you may just find yourself without any affection at all.

* Never pick your teeth or nose in front of your date. Perhaps every does it at some point, but it just doesn’t play out well when considering a make out session later on. If you have something lodged, or feel something that might be visible, go to the washroom and take care of it in private.

* Be mindful around food. People who sneeze or cough without covering their mouths, even brush their hair (yes it happens) around food can send out some very bad signals.

* Always wash your hands. After using the rest room, before a meal, after touching just about anything that others might touch frequently: wash your hands. If your date catches you doing something that they consider icky and you don’t wash up, they may not want those hands to get more personal later on.

* This one should be basic, sadly it is often not so, always chew with your mouth closed. I don’t think anyone needs more of an explanation on that one. I certainly hope not.

* Spitting, whether on purpose or when speaking is highly unattractive to most people, so try to avoid this one if you’ve been known to be a bit of a rainmaker.

* Chewing on hair or nails, especially during mealtimes, is a big irritation to many people. To most it is simply a quirk they do not find attractive, but to some it is even considered unsanitary so try to avoid this habit, even when nervous. Some find a person tugging at their lower lip to be a cute thing and if you’ve been known to do this you might make the gamble, however, pay attention to your date’s reaction just in case.

While some of the bad habits brought up on this list are major ones many are little details that often go unchecked, unmentioned and uncorrected. By simply paying attention to the details you stand the chance of seriously improving your date appeal. By making just a few simple changes you may have just given yourself the advantage in dating and in making that connection that can too often be broken by the tiniest, yet monumental, detail.

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